The first year of marriage can be hard enough; adding a baby to the mix makes it all the more weighty and difficult. Perhaps the greatest danger to a baby arrives is that the newlyweds focus all of their love and attention on the baby, where, of course, it should be.
Shame often can’t be seen directly, what stands out are the defensive behaviors that people use to camouflage and to attempt to escape their experience of shame, such as desperate measures including violence that people may use in attempting to shift unbearable shame off themselves and onto others.
Although parents don’t always think about their extended family tree when they are thinking about why their son or daughter is having trouble in school, it’s important that they should. It’s a rare teacher or doctor who will think to ask about whether a child’s learning problems or “underachievement” runs in the family, and if…