Relationships
The first year of marriage can be hard enough; adding a baby to the mix makes it all the more weighty and difficult. Perhaps the greatest danger to a baby arrives is that the newlyweds focus all of their love and attention on the baby, where, of course, it should be.
Feelings of shame, or the attempts to avoid such feelings, are at the root of all relationship discord. Furthermore, the painful experience of shame is so unbearable that it is often bypassed or repressed. This results in one or both members of the couple withdrawing, blaming, criticizing, rejecting or being dismissive towards the other.
Mention the words “commitment phobic” in casual conversation, and often times you’ll find people complaining about men. For a long time that may (or may not) have been true. Regardless, commitment phobia has been a puzzle of relationships for a long time. Is commitment phobia exclusively a male phenomenon? I will give you three guess…